Who do you want to be? What do you value? Does your current lifestyle and actions reflect your values and a positive self image?
Being able to recognize and describe your own feelings, wants, and desires is a must in order to communicate effectively with yourself and others. Doing so brings you closer to your greatest self.
What do you want for your life? A different job? More free time? More income? To build stronger friendships & relationships; to have kids; to meet more people who encourage your values or healthy lifestyle?
Do you know your answer? Great! Now, follow up with a few more questions:
- Why do you want it and why is it important to you?
- How do you get there? What are the specific steps you need to take to reach your goal? What distractions do you need to eliminate to reach your goal?
- Does your current lifestyle move you in that direction? Do you have habits that are helping or hurting your progress?
- Where do you network? Where do you start finding the right support system?
Have no idea what you want, or aren’t sure how to answer the questions above?
Get started by exposing yourself to opportunities, people, and ideas outside of your normal routine. Get out of your comfort zone! This will help you see first-hand what you do and don’t want for yourself. Right now, everything you know is based on your current experiences and knowledge, as well as, the circle of people you surround yourself with.
To broaden your current reality, you have to experience new people who challenge your current knowledge and truths. Don’t limit yourself! There may be something you didn’t even know would bring you joy because you haven’t experienced it yet!
The world affects us constantly. If we live without a sense of direction, we risk moving away from our hearts’ truest desires instead of towards them.
“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” – Jim Rohen
Having principles and set values helps keep you consistent. Values are like direction on a compass that leads you to your destination (goals). When you make decisions with your values and the big picture in mind, you will be less distracted and experience fewer setbacks from your goals.
What Life Values do you base your decisions on?
- Quality of life
- God or other higher power
- Helping others
These are just a few examples. Take a moment to write a list of values that are important to you. Now, think how your decisions and lifestyle reflect these values.
Change is inevitable, growth is intentional.
Once you find a direction, or something that grabs your interest and passion then focus time and attention on it. See it through to completion. Growth requires you to figure things out, shedding things that don’t serve you, and leaning into things that make you better and more able to reach your goals.
Try to eliminate distractions: unsubscribe from junk emails that crowd your inbox and focus; limit time on social media; and when you do check the latest on Instagram or Facebook, make sure your timeline is filled with plenty of like-minded people, post and thoughts. The more you spend time with people who encourage and support you, the more you’ll find yourself moving in the direction you desire.
In order to consciously follow your goals and accomplish them, you need the right tools in your tool kit — the right life skills.
- Suggestions on books (audio and paper)
- Self-coaching & accountability systems – believe and say out loud you deserve it; take out the guesswork
- Life Value alignment articles & exercises
- Mindfulness – ideas and questions to keep you from living on autopilot
- Travel and group activity ideas – new perspectives and new environments
- Learn when to say “Yes” and when to say “No.” Am I doing this for me and because I want to or because someone else expects me to or has made me feel guilty?
- Outside counseling, life coaching, and mentorship ideas
- Self love and compassion – learn to love yourself despite what you perceive to be weakness and stop negative thoughts & talk
- But also, learn when to give yourself the harsh truth – how to recognize when you aren’t being real with yourself, and stop your excuses or justifications
- Tap into your spiritual and creative side
- Explore college or online course ideas; or continue education in your current field
- Tips on creating your own vision and/or action board
- Learn to trust yourself and the process – to have patience in a instant gratification society
- Build an active and intentional date calendar – it doesn’t matter if you’re newly dating or have been married 20 years
This learning never stops; it is a lifelong process. There is no finish line, no end point, no one goal or achievement. There is always more, so make it meaningful. Give purpose and passion to your actions. Stop comparing yourself to the people you see around you and on TV. Your life is happening right now. Create the life you want to live. It’s never too late to start. Join our membership and start living the life you’ve always imagined! It can happen, and I can help you!